How to find Support from Family, Friends and Professionals after learning about a Cheating Partner

Discovering infidelity can leave you feeling devastated and unsure of what to do next. Talking to family and friends can help you process your emotions, but it's important to approach these conversations with honesty, openness, and set boundaries. Seek support, consider professional help, and explore tools like EyeCanKnow to gather the truth and make informed decisions about your future.

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At EyeCanKnow we’ve helped thousands of people use Ocular Motor Deception technology to test whether their significant others are cheating on them. While many are relieved to find out that their partner has not been cheating, others are devastated when they discover their partner has been unfaithful.

At this point, the big question becomes “what next”? Where do I go? What should I do? These big decisions have to be made when you are feeling your most vulnerable, betrayed, hurt, and in some cases abandoned. Where can you turn for support?

Talking to your family and friends about your partner's infidelity can be a helpful way to process your emotions and get support. However, it's important to be mindful of how you approach these conversations. Here are a few tips for talking to your family and friends about a cheating partner:

Choose the Right Time and Place

When you're ready to talk, choose a time and place where you can have a private conversation without interruptions. Make sure you're both comfortable and have enough time to talk without feeling rushed. You need to be sure you have their attention and they are willing to hear what you have to reveal.

Be Honest and Direct

When you start the conversation, be honest and direct about what you're going through. Tell your family and friends that you've discovered your partner has been cheating on you. Be prepared to answer questions and provide details, but avoid getting into too much graphic detail.

Express Your Emotions

This might be the most important step of all. It's important to express your emotions when you're talking about infidelity. Let your family and friends know how you're feeling, whether it's anger, sadness, betrayal, or confusion. Crying is a natural response to grief and loss, so don't be afraid to let your tears flow.

Listen to Their Advice

Your family and friends may have advice on how to deal with your partner's infidelity. While you don't have to take their advice, it can be helpful to hear their perspectives. Consider what they have to say and decide what's best for you. Don’t get defensive. You don’t have to accept anyone’s advice. But it helps to hear their perspective. There may be a bit of “I told you so” advice. Let that flow off your back while you listen for nuggets you can use to help you move forward.

Set Boundaries

If you decide to stay in the relationship, you'll need to set boundaries with your partner. Let them know that cheating will not be tolerated in the future. You may also need to set boundaries with your family and friends if they're constantly bringing up your partner's infidelity.

Seek Professional Help

If you're struggling to cope with your partner's infidelity, consider seeking professional help. A therapist can provide you with support and guidance as you process your emotions and make decisions about your relationship.

You might also decide you need additional information. This might come from more truth verification tests from EyeCanKnow, or if needed, more intense information gathering from a private investigator.

Conclusion

When cheating happens, support is critical to healing. Talking to your family and friends about a cheating partner can be difficult, but it can also be helpful. By following these tips, you can have open and honest conversations that can help you heal and move forward.